Relationship Troubles? Start with Dropping your Drama Llama
I have noticed that people that have less-than-stellar communication skills will make a big deal over little things. The drama llama comes out about how awful any little bump in the road is. I know because I see a lot of people do this in my cuddle sessions. While I do see any kind of hurting in a relationship as real and something to take seriously, this kind of jump to thinking this is bad felt like a big giant drama llama.
If someone says “Hey, that’s not okay” or sets any boundaries in a relationship, these people automatically act as if it was the worst possible thing to happen. When people do that, they start dramatizing the whole relationship. Suddenly the relationship is now broken and it cannot be repaired. Oftentimes, the person will shut down and leave the relationship…
Which is this the worst possible thing you can do.
Ok, maybe T-swift got the worst possible thing down for what you can do.
I have so many clients who shut down after I set a boundary with them and this is a big sign of a serious problem. If they’re doing this in a session, then they’re probably doing this in their relationships too.
That’s why we should try to recognize what is actually happening in you and lean into the connection instead.
If you’re the kind of person that gets hurt or gets hurt when you find out you hurt someone, this video is for you.
Friendships AND intimate relationships need transparency
Throwing a problem in a relationship under the rug or hiding the problem by buying something your partner will like, like flowers or chocolates, doesn’t solve the problem
If you’re the kind of person that’s instinct is to run away, don’t be afraid to name it
If you’re the one that gets hurt, bring it up and tell them because they might not know what happened hurt you
We should distinguish between what happened (objective thing) and how you felt about what happened (subjective thing)