Professional Cuddlers are For Women too.

I've noticed that over the past year, I've started to receive more requests from women.

I've been doing this work for about four years so I'm happy to hear that this is changing since I could previously count the number of sessions I did with women on one hand. More diversity in sessions! Yay!

And I don’t think it’s weird for a woman to come to see a Professional Cuddler. I’ve seen one myself when I didn’t want to be the professional for a bit—yes, a Professional Cuddler went to go see a Professional Cuddler. You might be joking to yourself, “well, then how did you pay each other?” and if you are, I paid her because she was working and I was not.

There is no shame in women going to get their cuddling needs met by a Professional Cuddler. It was nice for me not to worry about the other Cuddler's needs because I was the client for a change. I was getting taken care of because I needed the touch myself and I wanted it on my terms.

(Sidenote: more professional cuddlers should do this if they can. It’s pretty awesome.)

Now, women probably get a lot more touch in general as opposed to men. In this New York Times article, Dr. Floyd said in an email that men are “more likely than women to report that they received less affection from others than they wanted.” And this goes to say women tend to get more affection and the touch they need than men. But more often than not, “[touch] gets ignored in a touch-averse culture like ours” and “social-cultural trends in America have focused for decades on reducing touch,” which is why we need Cuddlers more than ever for both women and men.

While women are more likely to get their touch needs to be met than men, women don't always get it on their terms, and they tend to be subjected to it rather than get what they ask for. (I say this from anecdotal evidence, not from statistical.)

I've noticed a pattern of women getting to their breaking points with whatever it might be they’re dealing with—depression, chronic pain, loneliness, partner not able to be present, etc. There seems to be a pattern of women stuffing their own needs aside and not taking the time to invest in their self-care, even if they do have the financial ability to do so.

Although I will say this: some of my women clients are returning a little more often as they see themselves feel better and show up better session after session. I’m really happy about that.

Women reading this, you're worthy of love and affection, the time and the money it takes for you to take care of yourself. If you feel like professional cuddling is the answer for you, I want to encourage you to see a cuddler, be it myself or someone else, before you don't know where else to go.